Today, we are going to talk about another three things to keep your marriage or relationship a happy one. Now in the last lesson, we talked about communication, saying “I love you”, and asking your significant other “how was your day”. The next three things we are going to talk about are separation, commitment and vows, and appreciation.
These things are not hard to do and can make any relationship a good one. When I speak of separation, I am not talking about ending the relationship in any manner. Every relationship should have a period of separation to function correctly and make it a happier one. Each partner needs some space just for themselves. I have found with my own experiences that when each individual takes a break away from the other, it makes each one more appreciative of the other person. They have that saying “you don’t know what you had until it’s gone”. That is entirely true. When you are away from that special person in your life, you tend to want that person even more. You find it difficult to not think of the other person. You can also realize how much you need and desire that person.
I miss the hell out of my husband when he is away from me, even for a short period, but it is the fact that when we are apart I appreciate him just that much more.All couples need that space from one another. Take some time and do things without the other. Go for a walk, do some shopping, go hang out with some friends. When you do, you find that you think of that person. You wonder what they are doing, who they are talking too, and one of the most important thoughts is are they missing or thinking about you. So give it a try, take a few hours away from each other, then when you get back together you have things to talk about while you were apart and you become closer to that individual.
The next thing to talk about is your commitment or vows that you made with that person. I have found that a lot of people lose track of the vows they recited to each other the day they got married. If you didn’t want to be committed to that person, why did you get married in the first place? Commitment means being only with that person and forsaking all other’s. Giving your life to that person. I would die for my husband because he is always there when I need him despite some of the petty little disagreements we have with each other.
If you commit yourself to that person because you love them, then it shouldn’t even be a question as to who you would choose in a decision. I choose my husband because he will always have my back and he is very supportive. Remember your vows that you made to that person and own up to them. Make that person dear to you and don’t be selfish and put you first. It is always better to think of others before yourself because you will never know the day you will need them.
Commitment is alway about choosing to be with that person. You take them with the good and the bad. That is where communication would fall into play. Should the two of you have a disagreement, talk it out with yelling or attitudes being thrown around. Not every marriage or relationship is perfect and should be seen that way. Every person will make mistakes because they are just that, human. I can understand if the mistake they made was a huge one where they defaulted on their vows or commitment to you to be with another. Even God forgives the largest of mistakes if they are repentant and asking for forgiveness.
The next and last thing I would like to advise is being appreciative of your significant other. No matter if you have been married or together for three days or thirty years, you should always show the other person just how much you appreciate them. Voice your appreciation or send them little notes stating it. Being selfish or greedy will alway cause turmoil in a relationship so being appreciative of your significant other will make for a better relationship because they will feel good and be happy with you.
I appreciate my husband every day and I tell him this either verbally or by showing it. It is the little things that can make a person feel like they are special. He might cook for me one night and that is his way of showing how much he appreciates me. I woke up one day and he had gotten into my computer and posted a note on my desktop, which I have not erased yet, telling me how much he loves and appreciates me even when he doesn’t show it. He tells me thank you for all the times I was there for him and just that little note goes a long way. It makes me feel like I am wanted or appreciated.
I stand by all my advice because I live it every day. We have been married for three years now and we are still on our honeymoon even with the little disagreements we still love and cherish each other. We take the time to tell or show the other person how important they are in our life and how much they are loved and appreciated. Try it sometime to show how much you appreciate your spouse or significant other. It will make them and yourself feel really good and it will make your relationship that much stronger. Leave me a comment on how it helped your relationship.