Lesson’s of Marital Romance Part 4

In this lesson what are searching for what can make any marriage or relationship a good one. I hope you have learned from the previous lesson’s which are based on my experiences. The things we are going to talk about are dinners, romantic evenings, date nights, walks, and weekend getaways. These are all a part of a happy relationship.

Starting with dinners, they don’t have to be extravagant, and you don’t have to run out to the grocery store and buy lobster or shrimp. Any good meal can be cooked with what you have in the pantry and refrigerator. All you have to do is cook from your heart. Believe me, your significant other can tell whether you have put your love and heart into your cooking. After preparing the meal and making the table look enticing, you sit down with your partner and you enjoy your dinner. The conversation should be kept pleasant and do not, I repeat, do not talk about work, finances, or anything of the like. Yes, you can ask them how their day went but don’t go into details.

The conversation should revolve around the two of you and not just be one-sided. Tell each other how much you love them, or how good the food tastes. Always discuss things with your partner. Stare into each other’s eyes and remember why you fell in love with them. The dinner can only help intensify the relationship.

The next thing is to plan for romantic dinners. This will strengthen your relationship by showing the other partner how much you love and appreciate them. Make their favorite meal, candles, dim the lights, and have some nice romantic music playing. This will most always put your partner into a sensual mood. Spend the evening holding hands at the table and looking into each other’s eyes and always make eye contact when speaking or listening. That is a basic gesture of respect. Some of you can possibly get away with feeding your partner. Just a few servings will do. You don’t want it to seem like you have to force feed them.

Now that you have gotten past the dinners, how about having a date night. We all loved them when we were younger. Make a plan to go out somewhere with just the two of you. If you have kids, see if one of the grandparents will take the kids for a few hours so that you can reconnect with your significant other. Go out and have some fun, it doesn’t have to be dinner at a restaurant or anything, go to a carnival, go see a movie.

The whole point of date night is to reconnect with your loved one. Do some of the thigs you did when you first dated. Share all your interests in common. Remember to always compromise on the things that you are going to do that night. Never seem overbearing and controlling. Let your partner feel they are part of the decision as well. There are so many things to do and sharing your interest with each other will bring you closer too.

Another awesome thing to do with each other is how about taking a walk together. You can walk around the block, down by a river, lake, or pond, through a museum, there are endless possibilities. Conversations with each other while walking together can be so enlightening. Just keep work and finances out of the conversation. You fell in love with your partner because they had qualities you liked and admired. You can share positive things about work, like promotions and such, but never talk about negative things.

It doesn’t cost anything to go for a walk, and it shouldn’t cost anything to spend time with your loved one. So don’t make it about money. Talk about what each is into or their hobbies. Reconnect with them on a personal level.

Lastly, in this lesson, we want to talk about having a weekend getaway. Take the weekend off and go spend a couple of days with just each other. Maybe you want to stay cuddled up in bed the whole time or if you are close to a beach or river take a walk together. Just spending time alone together is a fascinating way to grow closer. Getting away from the stress at home, the kids, and sometimes the in-laws can make for a better relationship. My husband and I like to lay in bed and watch movies while it is raining or snowing outside.

Sometimes we lay in bed at night or in the morning and we talk. We talk about what we are going to do that day, how we feel, and sometimes we tell each other how much we love one another. So those weekend getaways can be something you could cherish and it gives you a new sense of meaning to each other. So, plan a weekend getaway once a month or every other month, but take time for yourselves without all of the drama and stress of everyday life. Until next time, keep those home fires burning and the love alive in your relationship.

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Stephanie’s Second Date

Monday rolled around and Stephanie had a full day of classes not to mention socializing with her friends. While she was taking a break in between classes her phone rang and it was Zack’s voice on the other end. She was very happy to hear from him and before he could say anything, Stephanie thanked him for their first date. Zack chuckled a little on the phone and said that it was wonderful for him too. He could tell how excited Stephanie was to hear from him by the tone of her voice.

Once she was done talking and Zack could get a word in, he asked her if she would like to go out with him again on Friday? Stephanie took a few minutes to think it over and excitedly said “yes”. Zack told her that he would be over to pick her up at about seven o’clock that evening and she agreed before hanging up. Stephanie was so excited that Zack called and asked her out again that she couldn’t wait to tell her friends.

After she finished all her classes for the day, Stephanie met up with her girlfriends and they headed off to a fast food place to eat and catch up on all the gossip. While they were hanging out chatting, Stephanie spoke up interrupting everyone to inform them that Zack had called her asking her out again. All of her friends stopped talking and their jaws dropped for a minute before trying to knock her good news into the ground. Some were making comments about him as if he had money or not while others were asking about his social status, but her true friends walked over and gave her a big hug congratulating her on the second date. She really needed the reassurance that her friends approved.

After the grueling hours of hanging out with girls who don’t appreciate her, Stephanie decided to go on home for the evening. When she went to say goodbye to the girls they were so caught up in themselves that Stephanie didn’t exist. She did stop to say goodbye to her true friends who actually were going to walk with her home. As the group walked away from the other girls no one even noticed they were leaving. So they made their escape.

The girls walked and talked and you could even hear a few giggles come out of the group. Stephanie really felt good being around this group of girls because they actually showed they cared about her. One of them actually asked Stephanie why she hung out with the money social status girls anyway. She tried to explain but it just sounded too confusing for anyone to comprehend but Stephanie did comment that she was getting pretty fed up with the other girls but she didn’t know how to tell them. One of her friends walking told Stephanie that she should just say something like “hey I don’t want to hang out with you guys anymore” and walk away. Stephanie and the others just broke out laughing.

They finally arrived at Stephanie’s house and she invited them inside which they all agreed that they still had homework to complete for the next day of classes. They all hugged and said their goodbye’s before walking away from the house. Stephanie went inside and headed for the kitchen to check in with her parents to let them know she was home. After saying hello and grabbing an apple Stephanie headed back upstairs to relax for the evening and getting her homework done.

Several days went by and Stephanie received a gift at her door. It was a dozen red roses with a card which only read “For You”. She already knew who they were from and she hugged them tightly smiling as she walked back inside the door. She leaned up against the back of the door smelling her roses and thinking of Zack. He made her feel really special and she liked the attention. She ran upstairs and placed her roses in a vase on her desk and went into the bathroom to get some water for them. Now with them placed on her desk she can admire them while doing her homework in the evenings.

The next day, which was Friday, Zack called Stephanie on her phone in between classes to remind her of their date that night. Stephanie was ecstatic about her date and told him she would be ready. She hung up the phone and kind of danced her way to her next class. It seemed like forever until her classes were over for the day and Stephanie was all ready for the weekend ahead. After her date with Zack, she was spending some time during the weekend with her true friends. They were going to hang out and have a sleep over at Stephanie’s house Saturday night. There are plans to talk about guys during this sleepover and Stephanie needs all the advice she can get. She had already pledged that her seeing a guy was not going to change her life or who she was like most girls. She would remain the same no matter what.

Well as it got closer to her date, Stephanie got more excited to the point of not thinking correctly. She ran around trying to figure out what to wear before jumping into a hot bath. She plugged her curling iron in and grabbed her towel and started the water. She even put some perfume salts into the water to make her skin soft and smell good. Once the water was ready, Stephanie took off her clothing and stepped into a very hot bath where she laid back and slid down until the water was at the base of her neck. There she relaxed and had good thoughts of her date with Zack.

Once she was done soaking in her hot bath, she released the plug to drain the bath water, stood up grabbing her towel and wrapped it around her body. She walked quickly back to her bedroom closing the door behind her. She put on lotion, powder, and perfume before getting dressed and then went back to the bathroom to dry and throw some curls in her hair. Stephanie had just got done getting ready when the doorbell rang. She went downstairs and opened the door to a surprisingly handsome Zack standing there smiling.

He greeted her with a smile and a small bouquet of flowers. He handed them to her and she smelled them smiling. She thanked Zack for the flowers and he put out his arm to hers and escorted her to the car. Zack opened the door, helped her inside, and then went around to his side to get in. He asked Stephanie if there was any place in particular that she would like to go and she told him it was his choice. With that in mind, he informed Stephanie that a carnival was in town and he would very much like to take her there. She agreed with a big smile and off they went.

They arrived at the local carnival and he quickly got out of the car and ran around to her side to open the door and assist her in getting out. They walked to the entrance with her arm in his and Stephanie was amazed by all the pretty lights and sounds of the carnival. She had never been to a carnival before being that she was sheltered. He escorted her around and they took in some sights before getting on some of the rides. She was having an amazing time and he loved seeing her happy. As the night progressed, Zack noticed that Stephanie had a chill and took off his jacket and wrapped it around her shoulders before placing his arm around her to keep her warm.

They enjoyed the evening and had so much fun together, but it was getting late and Zack didn’t want to get Stephanie home too late. He escorted her back to the car opening her door and after she was inside, he handed her the stuffed bear he won for her at one of the game tables. He closed her door and went around to his side to get in. He drove her back home and they parked in her driveway where they sat and chatted about the evening for a bit. Stephanie thanked Zack for another wonderful evening and he smiled at her telling her she was welcome and he enjoyed himself too.

After sitting quietly for a few minutes, Zack leaned over and kissed Stephanie again sending her into a seriously blushing moment. She melted right into his arms as he reached out and held her close to him. That was another kiss that Stephanie would have to think about and write in her diary. it felt so good to her that they kissed several times before coming up for air. After they stopped kissing, Zack held her for a little while keeping her warm before she had to go inside. When it was time, Zack got out and went around to her side opening her door and escorting her to the front porch. There they shared one more kiss before Stephanie left him standing on the front porch holding his jacket.

Once she was inside, Zack went back to his car shutting her door and climbing back inside to drive home. Stephanie was in her own little world at this point. She has had her second date, a kiss that felt like the first, a bouquet of roses, and a heart that was melting. She felt really good and only wishes that it will continue. She went back upstairs, changed into her pajamas, and climbed into her sheets where she would write her deepest secrets in her diary before falling asleep with more wonderful dreams of Zack.