In this lesson what are searching for what can make any marriage or relationship a good one. I hope you have learned from the previous lesson’s which are based on my experiences. The things we are going to talk about are dinners, romantic evenings, date nights, walks, and weekend getaways. These are all a part of a happy relationship.
Starting with dinners, they don’t have to be extravagant, and you don’t have to run out to the grocery store and buy lobster or shrimp. Any good meal can be cooked with what you have in the pantry and refrigerator. All you have to do is cook from your heart. Believe me, your significant other can tell whether you have put your love and heart into your cooking. After preparing the meal and making the table look enticing, you sit down with your partner and you enjoy your dinner. The conversation should be kept pleasant and do not, I repeat, do not talk about work, finances, or anything of the like. Yes, you can ask them how their day went but don’t go into details.
The conversation should revolve around the two of you and not just be one-sided. Tell each other how much you love them, or how good the food tastes. Always discuss things with your partner. Stare into each other’s eyes and remember why you fell in love with them. The dinner can only help intensify the relationship.
The next thing is to plan for romantic dinners. This will strengthen your relationship by showing the other partner how much you love and appreciate them. Make their favorite meal, candles, dim the lights, and have some nice romantic music playing. This will most always put your partner into a sensual mood. Spend the evening holding hands at the table and looking into each other’s eyes and always make eye contact when speaking or listening. That is a basic gesture of respect. Some of you can possibly get away with feeding your partner. Just a few servings will do. You don’t want it to seem like you have to force feed them.
Now that you have gotten past the dinners, how about having a date night. We all loved them when we were younger. Make a plan to go out somewhere with just the two of you. If you have kids, see if one of the grandparents will take the kids for a few hours so that you can reconnect with your significant other. Go out and have some fun, it doesn’t have to be dinner at a restaurant or anything, go to a carnival, go see a movie.
The whole point of date night is to reconnect with your loved one. Do some of the thigs you did when you first dated. Share all your interests in common. Remember to always compromise on the things that you are going to do that night. Never seem overbearing and controlling. Let your partner feel they are part of the decision as well. There are so many things to do and sharing your interest with each other will bring you closer too.
Another awesome thing to do with each other is how about taking a walk together. You can walk around the block, down by a river, lake, or pond, through a museum, there are endless possibilities. Conversations with each other while walking together can be so enlightening. Just keep work and finances out of the conversation. You fell in love with your partner because they had qualities you liked and admired. You can share positive things about work, like promotions and such, but never talk about negative things.
It doesn’t cost anything to go for a walk, and it shouldn’t cost anything to spend time with your loved one. So don’t make it about money. Talk about what each is into or their hobbies. Reconnect with them on a personal level.
Lastly, in this lesson, we want to talk about having a weekend getaway. Take the weekend off and go spend a couple of days with just each other. Maybe you want to stay cuddled up in bed the whole time or if you are close to a beach or river take a walk together. Just spending time alone together is a fascinating way to grow closer. Getting away from the stress at home, the kids, and sometimes the in-laws can make for a better relationship. My husband and I like to lay in bed and watch movies while it is raining or snowing outside.
Sometimes we lay in bed at night or in the morning and we talk. We talk about what we are going to do that day, how we feel, and sometimes we tell each other how much we love one another. So those weekend getaways can be something you could cherish and it gives you a new sense of meaning to each other. So, plan a weekend getaway once a month or every other month, but take time for yourselves without all of the drama and stress of everyday life. Until next time, keep those home fires burning and the love alive in your relationship.