Lesson’s of Marital Romance Part 4

In this lesson what are searching for what can make any marriage or relationship a good one. I hope you have learned from the previous lesson’s which are based on my experiences. The things we are going to talk about are dinners, romantic evenings, date nights, walks, and weekend getaways. These are all a part of a happy relationship.

Starting with dinners, they don’t have to be extravagant, and you don’t have to run out to the grocery store and buy lobster or shrimp. Any good meal can be cooked with what you have in the pantry and refrigerator. All you have to do is cook from your heart. Believe me, your significant other can tell whether you have put your love and heart into your cooking. After preparing the meal and making the table look enticing, you sit down with your partner and you enjoy your dinner. The conversation should be kept pleasant and do not, I repeat, do not talk about work, finances, or anything of the like. Yes, you can ask them how their day went but don’t go into details.

The conversation should revolve around the two of you and not just be one-sided. Tell each other how much you love them, or how good the food tastes. Always discuss things with your partner. Stare into each other’s eyes and remember why you fell in love with them. The dinner can only help intensify the relationship.

The next thing is to plan for romantic dinners. This will strengthen your relationship by showing the other partner how much you love and appreciate them. Make their favorite meal, candles, dim the lights, and have some nice romantic music playing. This will most always put your partner into a sensual mood. Spend the evening holding hands at the table and looking into each other’s eyes and always make eye contact when speaking or listening. That is a basic gesture of respect. Some of you can possibly get away with feeding your partner. Just a few servings will do. You don’t want it to seem like you have to force feed them.

Now that you have gotten past the dinners, how about having a date night. We all loved them when we were younger. Make a plan to go out somewhere with just the two of you. If you have kids, see if one of the grandparents will take the kids for a few hours so that you can reconnect with your significant other. Go out and have some fun, it doesn’t have to be dinner at a restaurant or anything, go to a carnival, go see a movie.

The whole point of date night is to reconnect with your loved one. Do some of the thigs you did when you first dated. Share all your interests in common. Remember to always compromise on the things that you are going to do that night. Never seem overbearing and controlling. Let your partner feel they are part of the decision as well. There are so many things to do and sharing your interest with each other will bring you closer too.

Another awesome thing to do with each other is how about taking a walk together. You can walk around the block, down by a river, lake, or pond, through a museum, there are endless possibilities. Conversations with each other while walking together can be so enlightening. Just keep work and finances out of the conversation. You fell in love with your partner because they had qualities you liked and admired. You can share positive things about work, like promotions and such, but never talk about negative things.

It doesn’t cost anything to go for a walk, and it shouldn’t cost anything to spend time with your loved one. So don’t make it about money. Talk about what each is into or their hobbies. Reconnect with them on a personal level.

Lastly, in this lesson, we want to talk about having a weekend getaway. Take the weekend off and go spend a couple of days with just each other. Maybe you want to stay cuddled up in bed the whole time or if you are close to a beach or river take a walk together. Just spending time alone together is a fascinating way to grow closer. Getting away from the stress at home, the kids, and sometimes the in-laws can make for a better relationship. My husband and I like to lay in bed and watch movies while it is raining or snowing outside.

Sometimes we lay in bed at night or in the morning and we talk. We talk about what we are going to do that day, how we feel, and sometimes we tell each other how much we love one another. So those weekend getaways can be something you could cherish and it gives you a new sense of meaning to each other. So, plan a weekend getaway once a month or every other month, but take time for yourselves without all of the drama and stress of everyday life. Until next time, keep those home fires burning and the love alive in your relationship.

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Lesson’s of Marital Romance Lesson 1

Today there are many relationships on the verge of divorce or separation. Why, because some people, whether it be your husband or wife, feels the relationship has run its course, has gone sour, or in most cases, it has become a strained relationship due to both spouses having to work to pay the bills in their household. I am writing this blog in hopes that it will help those who want out or have gotten to that point where they can’t take any more stress or heartache.

I have learned from past experiences in marriages that there are simple little things to keep the marriage alive, even in tough times. In this series of blog posts, I want to offer some advice or steps that you can do to make your relationship a little better or make couples become closer. Maybe this advice might even kindle that fire a little for both spouses. I wish every married couple could wake up next to their significant other and fall in love with them all over again. Can you see yourself remembering why you fell in love with that person? I know some marriages are joined because of money, but I find it hard to believe that most marriages are built around money. Whatever happened to courtship and dating? Don’t you want to fall in love for love?

I remember my first date with my current husband. He came over to my house and we sat watching movies and getting to know one another better. Which brings me to the first lesson of marital romance, communication. Can you say, com-mun-i-kay-shun? This is one of the biggest downfalls of marriages today. Yeah, I bet you thought it was cheating, right? No, it is the lack of communication that separates even the best of marriages. If you cannot talk with your spouse, or communicate, why did you even get married? You join together as one in holy matrimony but still act like there are two separate entities.

When you get together in marriage, the best part is talking to your spouse and finding out more about them. You should want to know what their hobbies are, their dreams and ambitions, or what they expect from you in return. I love my husband to death and would die for him because he knows everything about me. That first date, we shared our most intimate feelings and secrets. I told him of my traumatic past, every fine detail. I wanted him to know everything there was to know about me. I find it scary though that we have so many things in common. We just celebrated our third year anniversary back in October and do you know how we spent it? I made us a nice dinner and we laid in bed just talking. We make that a part of our everyday life, just talking.

You should want to talk to your spouse because then you would know where their mind is, how they are feeling, or even what their day is going to entail. Every day we talk to each other, and when our day is hectic, we still manage to stop what we are doing and say something to one another. This is how a good marriage is supposed to function. It is what keeps things interesting. Which brings me to the next piece of advice. Tell them you love them.

If you married your spouse because you fell in love with them, then reminding them every day that you love them intensifies the bond between you. They feel that you are still there with them. It reminds them of why you got married in the first place. I love my husband and we constantly throughout our day tell each other we love each other. If we didn’t, then there is a problem somewhere and we need to find it to fix it. Marriages are supposed to be happy and loving. Every day, no matter how we feel, saying “I love you” makes the day even better. Sometimes one of us will stop what we are doing just to tell the other how much we love them.

Love is a wonderful thing and I just wish every human on planet Earth would find that special someone or soul mate, just to be happy with life. Be happy with each other. Loneliness can destroy so many, but loving someone is the healing force to marriages. Tell that spouse every day that you love them. When you or your spouse are on your way out the door to work, stop and tell the other you love them. When you or your spouse come home, stop and tell them you love them. Keep reminding them. Make it a habit you can’t break and see how much better or stronger your marriage becomes. Three little words can make a difference in anyone’s marriage. Just do me one favor, don’t say it unless you really mean it.

A spouse can tell when those words have no meaning or are not heartfelt. A marriage is a living thing with a heartbeat that can die at any minute. Sometimes all the best life-saving measures can not resuscitate it or bring it back to life. Start at the beginning of your marriage telling your spouse how much you love them and keep doing it every day you are together. A marriage is a blessing and it should be treasured because so many will never have one.

The third lesson is to always tell your spouse to “have a good day”. I know it seems so simple but you would be amazed at how many people find it hard to say. It is called positive affirmation. It is basically a mind conditioning phrase that works wonders for a person. When you tell someone to have a good day, they, in turn, will believe they will have a good day and it raises their self-esteem. It also shows that you care how their day will go. My husband and I don’t work because we are disabled, but every day we tell each other to have a good day because it gives assurance of how our day will go.

Even if at the end of the day or part of the day we had a bad one, we still remember that our spouse told us to have a good day and it lightens the load a little. I thnk back to the beginning of the day when my husband told me to have a good day and it brightens my day back up. Always give your spouse positive affirmations to help them along the way. Show them how much they mean to you and that you wish them the best day ever.

So, if you are in a marriage or engaged to be married, please remember why you are getting married. Was or is it for love, or money? The wrong one can cause havoc and end pretty badly. I wish the best for all couples who are married or engaged and that they have a “good day”.

The Midnight Visitor

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As I lay in my bed with the feel of my red satin sheets against my bare skin, I can feel the brisk cool air blowing in from my opened balcony doors. I can hear the ocean waves pounding the sandy beach outside and see the bright full moon that lingers in the midnight sky. I quickly fall asleep to the soothing music of the ocean as if it were a lullaby. I lay there sleeping and dreaming of romance and hot passionate love making with that special someone and unknowing of the visitor who will appear in my bed tonight.

I feel the tingling sensation of something softly caressing my skin and can smell the masculine aroma of a man’s cologne. I am unable to move but I can feel the hot breath of a man against my neck and shoulders. He plays and runs his hands through my long blonde hair while gently placing kisses upon my cheeks. I can hear the slight moaning of his voice as I lay helpless against the softness of my bed. His hands caress my soft skin over my shoulders and down my chest. Those masculine fingers and hands fondling my breasts and softly twisting my plump pink nipples. I feel his hot breath as he makes his way down over my breasts placing his moist warm mouth over my nipples. Gently licking and sucking on them making them more erect and plump.

His hands slowly moving over my quivering stomach pushing the red satin sheets down my body exposing it to the cool air coming in from the balcony. I can feel my body swelling with arousal and not knowing who my midnight visitor is makes it all that more intense. I feel his soft kisses make their way down over my stomach as one of his hands are still fondling one of my breasts. Then, his soft lips are tasting my hips and thighs. I can feel his body shifting over mine and gently spreading my legs with his.

His kisses are now making their way to my inner thighs where I know he can smell the soft hint of musk coming from my partly shaved vagina. My lips are swollen with arousal and I can feel the wetness between my vaginal lips as it trickles down the crack of my bottom. Out of no where I can feel his face pressed against my vagina as he takes in it’s aroma. His hands firmly but gently squeeze my thighs and slide under me grabbing my bottom and lifting my vagina to his face.

I can now feel his lips kissing my lips as his tongue slides between my vaginal lips tasting of my sexuality and arousal. My eyes are still closed while my midnight visitor has his way licking and tasting my sweet juices. Feeling his light moans and they vibrate between my lips and thighs. My legs start to quiver as my nightly lover delves into my pure sweetness. I can feel his tongue pushing it’s way inside my tiny pink hole as his mouth surrounds the rim and catches all that drips from within.

As his tongue glides back and forth over my clitoris, one of his fingers push deep inside my pink fleshy hole of darkness. Deeper and deeper it penetrates making my legs quiver more and my heart race to the point of beating against my chest. Then, he slides his tongue up and over the edge of my smooth vaginal lip and onto the patch of soft brown hair. Higher and higher he licks his way back up my body and as he reaches my face I can feel his hardness throbbing against my pelvis. My whole body quivers as I lay helpless while my midnight visitor takes advantage and has his way with me. I still cannot open my eyes to see who the mystery man is.

I feel his hand slide down the side of my body and gently spread my legs apart. Opening my legs and welcoming his large appendage inside me. He takes that appendage and slides it up and down between my vaginal lips coating it with my sweet juices before pushing its ways inside me. I feel every bit of my pink fleshy hole as it stretches open to allow him entrance. He slowly pushes in and I can feel my body tense up as he dives deeper. His lips meeting mine as I lose myself in the moment. His masculine body covering mine  with each thrust inside me.

His lips kissing my neck and the feel of his warm breath on me makes me very aroused. I have never felt something so alluring and intense. My legs wrapped around him as he goes in and out pulling my juices to trickle down the crack of my bottom. It feels so good as I climb to orgasm. My arms wrapped around his body scratching at his back as I come to orgasm. While having my orgasm I feel him throb inside me as he too thrusts his creamy juice into my pink fleshy hole. Sweat dripping down off his body as he collapses on top of me. With that one final kiss he disappears into the night. My body quivering with delight and my heart pounding against my chest.

Once I opened my eyes, I see my red satin sheets covering my naked body. It is dry to the touch with no sweat covering it and I still have that sense of euphoria that comes with an orgasm. What happened to my midnight visitor? Where could he have gone so quickly? I look over to my balcony and see that my balcony doors are still open and the audible sounds of the ocean coming into my room. Was this just a dream or was there really someone here with me?